I decided to play with a new product we got in the office. It’s a super expensive service that Law Firms typically subscribe to. You can pretty much find out anything about anyone, of course you have to have a reason to go looking. Legally you can’t snoop on people.
I ran a background report on myself and my partner. I was surprised that my cell phone number popped up. It shows me as living in the house and reports that he is dead. I looked for marriage licenses but our state isn’t listed. I checked out the property and it’s showing up as in the trust. What gave me a sinking feeling is that it lists his next of kin and his address. I think that the union and/or their law firm has already ran the same report and are trying to make contact with the son, despite them telling me that I had 90 days to appeal. Once they pay the money I don’t have a claim. However, I think that if they pay it within the 90 day window I could potentially sue them. I am letting the situation play out because I really have no other choice. I want my lawyer to write his letter and see what kind of response we receive, if any. Maybe a check will just show up, but I really think that this is money I will not get. Fighting for it is an exercise in futility.
The good news is that his tax refund showed up in last nights mail. I got it deposited in the bank this morning. Got to get up early tomorrow so I can make the final mortgage payment to this lender. Then in a few days I get to start all over with the new lender that the mortgage was sold to. Holy crap!
There still are some small refunds that I am waiting on from the phone company and AAA. After that I am not expecting any money to show up in his name. However, I still don’t think I am telling the bank anything just yet. Keep them at bay and in the dark until they absolutely need to know. I just like having his name on the account, even though he is gone.
Last night was not a whole lot of fun. I got to make my dinner, had some storms and then a tree fell on a power line and we had no power until 1am. I broke out my iPad and watched stuff on NetFlix. My wifi is on battery backup so it lasted for a while. When it went out, I enabled a hot spot on my work phone and used that to continue to watch Netflix. I felt guilty for using their data so I kept it to a minimum. I had to reset clocks this morning. I left early so I could make it to the bank. I had every intention of starting early so I could leave early. Not so sure about the leaving early part. Kind of depends upon who sticks around and if the boss man is on-line. I don’t think he will be so I should be able to duck out early or so I hope.
I have to stop for fuzzy food. Not exactly sure what I am going to eat. Kind of depends upon how the rest of the day goes and what fresh hell awaits me in the mail.
I did get a call this morning from his doctors office they want a copy of the death certificate. I sent two copies to them already. Hopefully this will be the end of it. Sounds like they are going to write off his debt. If I can just get rid of all of the medical bills it will be a huge help.
Get the house in my name and stop this legal battle with the Death Benefit and then maybe I can finally get through the grieving process and manage to move on. There is always something to do, a letter to write or research to do I am just so sick of all of it. It’s bad enough that I lost him but all of this extra BS hanging over my head is just aggravation I really don’t need.
A week away from everything and everyone sounds nice and very appealing. Regardless if I could get it off, I would still have to carry my work phone. I just need time away from it all, so I can veg out and relax. Relaxing is something that I don’t do well. Give me my jumper a nice bed and some sleeping medicine. That will make it all better. I so look forward to bedtime.
Work today is quiet but I have the boring task of creating all of the user accounts. I have a hard time concentrating and doing things that I don’t like, but I know I have to get through it. I have plenty of equipment to configure but I can’t touch any of it until this silly little task is out of the way. I am just setting my priorities instead of asking my boss, it’s called common sense. I will start on the configuration next week for sure.
The memorial dinner is this weekend, I will be happier once I am there. I am nervous and feel like I will cry more than laugh. I really don’t want to cry but I am a very emotional person and if it happens I won’t be ashamed of it, but it’s not exactly the most attractive things to see in public.
Okay I am twisting my arm and going to get back to work. Just 4 or so more hours and the day is done. Then we get that 2 day short break. Then it’s back for 5 long days. Holidays are great but they are a tease, I think we should have more of them. More time to ourselves and less time working. I think everyone focuses too much energy on work. In fact I have friends that worry I will emerse myself in my job and become a workaholic. If I really loved everything about my job it probably would happen. However, right now I am still the same clock watcher that I have always been. When it’s time to go, it’s time to go.
Enjoy your weekend, talk with you peeps later.