Friday… Work closed early, which was kind of expected. I left later than everyone else just wrapping up a few things. I spent the better part of my day on the phone with the damn Mortgage company. First call – They need proof that I have an ownership interest in the property, that it was willed to me. I explained what I sent last week. That solved that. Next they need yet another copy of the death certificate and finally they need a letter of explanation that details my income and expenses as well as my intent for the property. I faxed them the death certificate, and another copy of the Uniform Borrowers Assistance form. Go Google it and you will see plain as day it tells you to detail your income and expenses. I figured that would suffice. It also has a spot for what you intend to do with the property. Second Call – They got the fax but what I sent wasn’t good enough for the letter of understanding. I asked for a supervisor and got hung up on. Faxed letter of explanation that explained my partner is dead, the property is mine, I earn x dollars and my expenses are x dollars and that leaves a deficit of x dollars per month. I told them to hurry up and make a decision because my money is dwindling and I’m sure they don’t want to be property owners. Third Call – Talked with a very extra special nice lady. She told me that the fax was received and my account is back in review for modification. I asked how long this usually takes and she said 30 days. I said well I’ve been trying since April and then the bank I was with sold the loan to you in June. I’ve been working with you since June and 30 days has come and gone. How much longer. Well um, she didn’t have an answer for that. I am wondering when it will end. They encourage me to make weekly status calls. They never call or write to ask for anything but they make you verify all of your contact information at the start of each call. They put notes in the file and wait for you to call in. Seriously? You could speed things along with a simple phone call, letter or e-mail. Send a damn smoke signal but communicate with me and work with me instead of working against me. Another month where they get all of their money!
Celebrity News…. Remember back on August 12th when I blogged about getting a catalog in the mail of swimwear & underwear. I said that I got to see Paul’s butt. Yeah well I was so excited I sent him an e-mail on social media and told him that I had waited a long time to see it and he has a really nice ass. I got an e-mail back Friday morning saying thank you. Wow, that just blew me away and made my day before it started.
When I got home I took a nap and relaxed a bit. Then I went into my guys bedroom and went through all of his clothes. I managed to bag up 3 black extra tall garbage bags of clothes. I didn’t throw everything of his in the bags. I kept some stuff and other stuff I was way too willing to part with. He used to be a lot smaller, then again so did I. I stirred up so much dust and dander in the process my allergies were acting up. However, there was no way I was quitting until I was done. It’s taken me almost 5 months to get to this point. If I stopped who knows when I’d go back. Finally I got done and I was whipped. Sweating to death and had to call it a night.
Found a new series that I am binge watching called Scandal it’s about an attorney who used to work at the White House and centers around Washington Politics. Kind of similar to House of Cards in many ways. It’s very good and appears to have been a TV show. Plenty of murder, sex and plot to keep you entertained for hours.
TMI moment…. I was wearing boxers yesterday. I had to keep pulling my pants up not sure what that was all about. Anyway I went to get up and squashed one of my nuts. That hurt all damn day and night. Today I am wearing a brief to keep my nuts from being injured again. Then that damn cats step on them when I am sitting in a chair. There is no winning!
Saturday…. I didn’t go to bed until after 1 am. The kids woke me at 5 and 6 and 7. Finally I just got up. I fed them and then started watching Scandal. Finally enough time had passed I had to get going. Made breakfast at home and got a shower. Headed out to pay the safe deposit box rent. Drop off the bags of clothes at Goodwill (thank God for the truck because all of that would have never fit into my car) and finally to pickup mail. Then back home.
I configured my new garage door opener and like it a little more than the original so I swapped out openers in my car. No issues as of yet. Then checked my tire pressure and let my car sit in the sun for a bit. I came back in to cool off with a bottle of water. Watch more Scandal and take a nap.
When I woke up it was close to 1pm. I got a fresh bottle of water, grabbed the keys & wallet and set the alarm. Said my goodbyes and I went off for a nice drive and got some PIE.
I ordered a Patty Melt and it was the best damn Patty Melt I had in a very long time. It took me back to when I was growing up and me and my uncle stopped in at the hospital coffee shop. He ordered a patty melt and I copied his order. I had no idea what I was getting. I fell in love, it was ecstasy in my mouth with every bite. This thing was so damn good I didn’t want pie for desert I wanted another patty melt. However, I didn’t give in and I ordered pie. I got Reese's Peanut Butter Cup. It was pretty good. Took home a full Custard and 4 Carmel Nut Rolls. Celebrating in style this weekend! I’m going to get fatter. Woot!
Got the car washed and gassed up. Then I went to Staples and of course they didn’t have the pen that I am looking for. I picked up something and was going to get it because it looked cool but talked myself out of it. I walked around aimlessly for a while and then just left. Got on the freeway and headed home.
Of course on the way back home a storm cropped up and my nice clean car got rained on. No harm done except the windshield was a mess from that and many bugs I encountered. I got it all cleaned up when I got home.
I fed the cats again and then I went to lube up of all things, wait for it, wait for it, the garage door. What did you think I was going to say? I found a video on-line and it was kind of comical as well as entertaining. It talked about what to use and where to squirt it. Turns out I’ve been doing it wrong. Followed the steps in the video except I didn’t put on safety glasses and should have. Outside of that all went well.
While that was drying a bit, I left my car out and came back in to take yet another nap. It was about 5 when I got home. Woke up a little after 6. Moved the car back in. Fed the cats and then started on cleaning my partners room. Damn he kept lots of magazines. Most everything by his bed was peed on. It smells and things were sticky. Not a good combo. Threw most of it away. There was very little worth saving. His dresser was the biggest mess and the mirror hadn’t been cleaned in ages. Again I managed to stir up the dust and dander so my nose was going crazy. Finished up and got out of dodge.
Then I cleaned the house up and got the trash out. Speaking of which come Wednesday morning the Trash Man is really going to hate me. My front lawn will look like I am having a yard sale there is so much shit I am putting out. I figured I should stop with the one room because they may not take all of it if I keep going.
I have to clean off his bed, it’s full of the clothes that I want to keep and actually wear myself. Then I have to launder the bed clothes – that will all happen in time. Until it does I am done with sleeping in there. Dust is every where. The mattress is really nice and comfortable. I really want to watch TV in my room and then retire to his room to sleep. Problem with that is not sure that Big Boy & Jumper would follow. Everyone would be confused with that for a while and it would leave my bed vunerable to get peed in. So while it’s a nice idea I am just keeping it in the back of my mind. Perhaps someday I will try it.
After I am done with his office, then I have the basement to tackle. That will make the poor trash man have to get a new truck after he hauls all of that crap away.
I got a newsletter from the city and we are having a e-waste drive. So I can get rid of those old cordless phones he was hanging on to as well as the many tube tv’s we have. It’s not until the end of the month but that’s okay it’s not like the crap is going anywhere. I could sell it but that takes forever just as soon throw it away and move on.
Laundry is going now with a shirt of his that I really want to wear tomorrow. My family wants to get together on Monday but I am changing it up and going to try for tomorrow. Olive Garden – never ending pasta bowl. Good stuff. Not sure if I will have room for desert but that is totally okay.
This weekend is extra difficult for me because Monday will be my birthday. This is the first birthday that I will be celebrating without the love of my life. It’s difficult but thus far it’s not as debilitating as I thought it would be. I know in the 4 months that he has been gone I have accomplished quite a bit and I know that I am keeping my promise to make him proud of me. It certainly isn’t easy but life goes on. There are still many good years for me, provided that I live that long. This single event has totally messed with my mind, body and spirit. I am trying to keep everything in check and keep my emotions under control. I probably could use a good cry but I am no where near that point.
Changing up my family get together is for two reasons one I really want to be alone on my birthday, not sure if that is good or not. Not sure if I will stay home or go out. The second reason is because they want to embarrass me by telling the whole restaurant it’s my birthday, I can’t say that I am up for that.
So sweet dreams. I am calling it a night and going to watch more TV. Maybe even take another shower. Tomorrow will be grocery store day as usual. Not sure if I will go out for breakfast or stay home. I’ve got plenty here to eat. So tired and proud of myself. I complained a little while I was working but it didn’t tear me up like I thought it would. Now washing the bed clothes that might have a little more impact on me. Only because he was the last person to lay on that side of the bed and I will be washing away the last trace I have of his physical body. Funny how something so minor has such a major impact.
I hope your weekend is going good and for those of you in the US I hope you enjoy the 3 day weekend. It’s the last one until November when Thanksgiving is here. That will be here before you know it. Wow, I should start thinking of scheduling vacation. I get 3 weeks and have only taken 2 days. I like to work in the summer and take some of the winter off as well as save up time in case I get ill.
Okay, talk with you peeps later. Enough rambling!