Sex it Sells

For the past few days I have been working on ways to get more readers.  The simple way to accomplish this is listing your blog with search engines.  I’m talking about separate search engines from Yahoo, Google, etc.  There are some that specialize in Gay Blogs but there are many more that specialize in Gay Adult Blogs and Gay Sex Sites.

I am very happy to have all of the readers I have today, but there is always room for more.  I didn’t realize until tonight how much my other blog had taken off.  The hit counter is already in the 300 range.  That is pretty good.  However my main site (what your reading now) is only in the 70’s. 

I always new that sex was a hot item and it sold quickly.  So by having two blogs I already know that the one about Sex is by far more popular.

Being Human (Gay, Straight, Bi, Lesbian, Transgender, etc.) there is so much more to life than sex.  The odd part is that once you give in to your urges as a teenager or young adult and have sex, then it’s like Oxygen.  Meaning it becomes a requirement for living and to go without it well you can’t imagine it.

I can tell you first hand that you can in fact live without it.  Look at my situation.  I have my moments when I am ready to climb the walls but a little alone time, some porn and life is good again.  Yeah, that is pretty much my sex life.

There is far more than sex on my mind.  Sure I like looking at a hot boy/guy and I appreciate the male body.  However, that won’t pay my bills or pacify my desire for someone to hire me.  I need money.  My main worry right now is that everything is going to fall out from under me and I will have to start everything over.

Huh?  I’m confused.  Yeah, I know join the club.  What I mean is I lost my job some 17 months ago.  I thought a month or two tops and I will be back on my feet.  Now, here we are 17 months later and I’m still looking.  Most of my retirement is gone.  I am in the process of filing Bankruptcy.  I am not sure about what will happen to my unemployment come the end of April if I will just make it to the next Tier in the system, or Qualify for a State Extension or just be told I have exhausted my claim and nothing more is available.  I’m worried about loosing my car.  I mean I still have to make car payments and I have other basic living expenses.

Right now I’m riding high because I’m free from Credit Card Debt.  However, I worry about my future and what is in store for me.

From the age of a young child all the way into adulthood I have been a worrier.  I know most of the stuff I worry about is not in my control and there is damn little I can do about it.  However, when it comes to my future, I should be able to have a say, after all it’s going to affect me.

The trip today away to get pie, was nice and kind of gave me a new lease on life.  However, that is short lived.  I have serious concerns about where things are going.  I am not nor have I ever been a patient person.  I’m ready to get on with it and get back to work.  I just hope and wish I could land a decent job.  I know there has got to be one out there for me, but I don’t understand why it’s taking so long to find it.  Why I have had to go through so many hurdles and lost what I thought was a friend in the process.  To say it’s not fair is an understatement, but then again life it’s self is not nor will it ever be fair. 

Most people dream about winning the lottery, finding their perfect soul mate.  Well I’ve got my soul mate and the perfect little furry family to round it all out.  Now a decent paying job would be nice.  If that isn’t in the cards then I will happily settle for a large lottery win.  Only problem is I don’t play that often.

The other thing that I find so troubling is the way the world has changed from when I was growing up.  Being Gay or being different has been difficult for others to understand and accept.  Violence, Bullying, etc. is far worse now.  Plus you have kids bringing guns into schools and school shootings and stabbings.  Why has Violence become so normal and accepted in todays society?  It’s in video games, it’s on TV, it’s in the news.  Maybe because we are surrounded by it.  Well if that is true then we are also surrounded by people that are different than us, why can’t we accept them for who they are?  Why does growing up have to be so difficult.  Your youth or teenage years help shape who you are and what you will be.  Depending upon what kind of trauma you are exposed to it can take months to years to recover.

So in summary Sex is wildly popular because I think it’s an escape for people to help hide their problems.  Lord knows if you’ve made it this far then you understand the world is a mess.  I’m not just talking my world, I mean the world as a whole.

This post isn’t exactly as I envisioned it but I’m posting it.  I think it conveys my message, despite the fact that I babbled a bit. 

Live today as if there is no tomorrow, because one day that will be true and you won’t have a chance to look back.  Think before you act.  There are consequences to every decision you make, weight those carefully before you make a move.  Tell those people in your life that matter to you, that you love them.  Laugh often because it feels good and is a great way to relieve tension.  Tomorrow isn’t promised to us folks and I think slowly more and more people are coming to understand that.

My brother told me last night that a kid we grew up with just passed away.  He celebrated his 40th birthday last Wednesday and last Saturday he passed away.  Not sure why or how.  I didn’t know him that well but we are the same age and that scares me a bit.  It was a subtle reminder that I could go at any time, then again so could those around me.  When you stop and think about it, it’s terrifying.  When your young you think you will live forever.  If only that were true!

They are after me

This morning my phone rang with a call from Kansas City.  I don’t know anyone there, so I didn’t answer.  No message.  About an hour later, another call no message. Around 2pm another call and this time they finally left a message.  It was as I suspected my first collection call.  I deleted the message and then decided to have some fun.  I have an old caller ID box from Radio Shack.  It gives an option for a Reject Index.  Once you add a number that has called you to the Reject Index, when they call back they get a voice telling them that you are not accepting calls from their number.  Wow, that was like swatting at a bees nest.  They started calling like crazy.  We stepped out for a bite and when we came back I see they called again but blocked caller id, all they got was voice mail.

Just because the phone rings doesn’t mean I have to answer it.  I mean its there for my convenience not for theirs.  The calls started picking up during the evening hours I forwarded my phone to my partners old phone number that was disconnected.  Of course they didn’t call back.  All is back to normal now and I’m sure they will be calling back many more times.

The funny thing is the guy said it was not a sales call and was instead a very important business matter.  Yeah, important to them because they want money.  Not important to me at all.  I am sure the letters will follow next along with those new statements that say your past due.  Like I didn’t know that in the first place.

Speaking of creditors I got the Cable bill in and paid it.  Then I decided to go hog wild and paid my cell bill (even though I don’t have a paper bill yet), Paid for the Alarm (again no paper bill yet) and then ordered my medicine from Canada.  Now I’ve got a little bit of money left over but I blew a decent amount of money.  I really hate to reconcile my bank account because it seems I use my debit card almost every day.

We have been saying we are going to have Hamburger Helper since Monday but every day we put it off and say where do you want to go to eat.  So today we went to the local bar.  Grabbed a couple salads and got the mail.  Then back home.  It was a rainy day and that cooled things off a bit.  Pollen around here is horrible.

I noticed last night we have what I refer to as the spawn of Satan.  They are like gnats that show up out of no where and now they are biting.  They only show up in the basement for now.  With a little time I am sure they will migrate upstairs.  I broke out the bug spray and gave the basement a good coating.  It smells odd down here but if it helps kill these bastards I am totally okay with it.

Once the weather clears up and we have a nice sunny day again, I will be outside with the bug spray doing the perimeter of the house.  We usually see Ants and every year we try to get a jump on them but don’t seem to quite make it.

I am all for the warmer weather with Spring and Summer but you can keep the pollen, bugs and snakes.  Ick!

So I have made my rounds to all of my regular reads letting everyone know that I’ve moved and what happened.  I have also been to a couple of gay blog search engines and listed both of my blogs.  One place wouldn’t take my adult blog because it said the site was responding that it had been temporarily moved.  That’s what Google/Blogger does.  They move blogs they are shutting down to a sandbox location where only they can get to them.  Everyone on the outside gets the sorry but we can’t find that blog message.  Tonight I went to one of my regulars and was prompted to login to Blogger.  I suppose they shut that one down or are in the process of doing so.

In the job hunt, all is quiet at the moment.  I answered a couple more ads tonight but things have really slowed down.  I have made my quota for unemployment, which is good but I really want to maximize the contact I have so I can increase my chances of getting a job.  Me and My guy talked today about the interview I went on earlier this week.  He really has his heart set on this one and thinks that I am going to get it.  I told him not to be too dead set on it.  Typically once I get that way I only have to face rejection.  I think they were really impressed by me and they are seriously considering making me an offer, but that is all speculation on my part.  I won’t know until I hear back from them.  Waiting is the hardest part of the job search.  I’m getting a little more used to it but I still don’t like it.  Being all keyed up on pins and needles just isn’t a way to live.  I also learned not to spend money counting on an offer, because if that offer doesn’t come you won’t have the money to pay the bills.  Now more than ever that is so important since I am on a cash only basis.  Not having credit does bother me but it also prevents me from falling into a trap of another mountain of debt.

Time to wrap it up here and start my night time chores.  I made it to bed last night before my partner and that is a very rare thing.  I also slept way longer than he did. Who knows what will happen tonight.  I am looking forward to watching some TV and not thinking about anything, just enjoying the company of the kids.

Have a good night.  Talk with you peeps later.

Tuesday–interview & 2nd blog

With all of the designing of blog(s) I finally now have time to talk about the interview I had today.

It was with a non profit group.  They have several offices throughout the state but are looking for someone in my region.  There are about 5 offices that I would be responsible for.  The job was advertised as Desktop Support but turns out it’s a Desktop & Network job.  They believe that everyone should have equal skills so I would get to learn about some new technology and add skills to my already vast knowledge.  Way cool!  The interview was very informal, I think they asked like 2 or 3 typical interview questions.  I went with the flow and kept it loose.  We did a lot of laughing and I think that helped the mood of the interview.  I know they like me, just by the way I was treated.

When I showed up they were in the middle of an interview already.  That guy walked out and he was dressed in a suit with no tie.  Strange but okay.  They were quick to usher him out but with me they took their sweet time.  When we parted I got the usual handshake and also a pat on the back.  Felt really good!

I came home, had supper and sent out my thank you e-mail.  I just got a response a few minutes ago (it’s after midnight) and they said they would be touching base in the next couple weeks.  At the time the interview was over with the time frame was the end of the week. 

While I don’t think there is much money there and I would have to use my car to travel from office to office, I am so ready to go back to work.  I hope they don’t find anyone they liked as much as me.  I hope if/when they call to make me an offer it’s something that is worth my wile.  I mean I know they are non profit but hey I need to pay my bills too and since I will be traveling I will need lots of money for gasoline which is going for $4.05 a gallon here. 

No other calls or interviews as of today.  However, I keep an open mind and hope that tomorrow will bring another job call and interview.  Things sure have slowed down.  Not a lot of ads thus far this week. 

For all of you adults, I have put up another blog that has adult content on it.  Yeah, naked guys and guys having sex with other guys.  There is a link in my sidebar to it.  Hopefully, both of my sites remain up and I don’t encounter any further problems.  The hardest part is spreading the word, which is why I hope at a minimum they at least give me my old main site back.

Well I need to tend to my night chores and wind things down.  Looking forward to relaxing in front of the TV with the kids (cats).  Have a good night if your still up.  If not then have a good day!   

Talk with you peeps later.  Thanks for stopping by!