Played?

No change in the message.  I ran the caller id through a reverse lookup and it comes back to someone way different than the guy it was intended for.  I called and listened to the voice mail greeting and it sounds nothing like him.  He gave me a bogus number.  It’s either that OR the chicken scratch he wrote down for me is something else entirely.  I am not happy regardless of what went wrong here. 

I’ve thought about a couple different ways to handle this. 

#1 – go back there tonight have dinner and if he is working talk with him.  If not leave a note for him with my number.

#2 – wait until the weekend rolls around again and go back and have breakfast, I’m certain if he isn’t my waiter, I will run into him or could at least chat him up and find out what went wrong.  I could have him send me a text from his phone that would certainly clear things up. 

#3 – just leave it alone.  Go about my life as I have been and forget all about him.  Don’t mention it to him just stick to business which is breakfast.

I am hurt and kind of feel like I was played.  Unless he has a good explanation I kind of think this is a lost cause.  While I am interested, I want honesty and not someone who plays games or lies.     

I suppose until I have my next contact with him, I won’t really know what happened if this was a misunderstanding on my part by reaching out to the wrong number or if he was playing a joke on me by giving me a random phone number.  I remember years ago I worked with a guy and he told me anytime a girl asked for his phone number he would give her a number that started with 911 that was in the early days before we had to dial the area code and phone number.  Regardless which number your given the call would route to 911.  Way to use up emergency resources for a joke, not a good idea at all.  It’s far easier if you’re not interested to express that and move on.  I don’t get why people play games. 

Moving on, I did go out for Mexican food last night and it was pretty good.  It was cold out and I managed to get home before dark.  Also picked up some cat food for my girl.  When I got home, she ate a bit then she tried to go to the bathroom.  There wasn’t enough lubrication in her system so she was straining and had a hell of a time.  That caused some nausea and she threw up what little bit she ate.  I got her in my lap and she passed out for a while to recover.  I let her sleep for an hour.  Then I went to give her fluids and damn if she didn’t move.  She wanted more food so I brought her plate closer and she munched some more.  Eventually she moved to the couch and settled down.  I moved the bag out there and got her hooked up.  She got a full dose and her body just sucked it up like a hoover picking up dust.  There was a bubble for a few minutes and then it was just gone.  She passed back out and then woke up and asked for food.  I brought her the plate and she cleaned it off and went back to sleep.  I moved on with my evening spending about an hour and a half alone.  I got in bed and of course just as I turned the TV off and was about to pass out, she came in crying she needed more food.  I got up and got her a can.  She woke me up again around 4a for more food.  Then I didn’t hear from her.  I wound up waking her up this morning when I got up, she hates that.  However, she was hungry and by the time her food was ready she was on the floor waiting.  She nibbled on it and then settled back on the couch waiting for me to sit and feed her the rest.  I did that and then I saw that hell was breaking loose at work so I opted to get a little bit of an early start. 

I just did some quick research about iMessages and it looks like it’s in my best interest to turn that feature off.  If I am going to use my phone for dating purposes and value anonymity. That way my phone reverts to standard text messages.  There is a minor loss of some features but it’s mostly things I don’t use like group iMessages and Location Sharing.  If someone replies to an iMessage you have sent and it’s off it will come through as a regular text message, so I’m good.  I am kind of surprised that this got me but now I know better so I will do better.  It’s all about learning from your mistakes. 

It’s a light day at work, one meeting at 11 and then unless something pops, I am free.  The rest of the week is fairly busy so hopefully that will help the weekend to come around again soon.  We have snow and rain in the forecast for the morning rush and I honestly don’t know if I want to risk it to make it in.  Kind of depends on how bad things are.  From what I saw from the early prediction this morning it will be similar to driving in the rain but with low temperatures all of that stuff could freeze and then it’s like driving in an ice storm and that my friends is no fun.  I can do it but given the fact I can do my job effectively from home why run the risk.  It’s going to be purely a judgement call on my part but I will go through the motions as if I am planning to go in and then make the call in the morning.  Better safe than sorry there is no job in the world that is worth more than my life and besides that if I drop dead, they will just replace me, it’s not like everything will grind to a halt.  Although given how bad things went when I was out with COVID I’d say that it would be safe to assume there will be plenty of mistakes and things will be pretty fucked up but they will get by.

I can’t help but think about my current situation and just feel so played and I know I am beating a dead horse here but I just don’t get it if your not interested then say so, don’t lead someone on or give them a fake phone number, not cool at all.  I haven’t exactly lost all hope in this guy yet but I am pretty close and unless he’s got some good response I kind of think it’s over before it even got a chance to start.  I don’t pick up on social queues, or hidden messages when it comes to dating.  That could very well be a contributing factor along with my age as to why I am still single.  I got so excited at the possibility that things were finally changing but until it actually happens I’m probably better off from an emotional standpoint of not getting my hopes up, but it’s really difficult not to.  I will say this regardless of how this ultimately turns out.  He’s young and is very good looking.  I don’t know much more than that, hence why I wanted to go grab a bite to eat and chat to get to know if there was any chemistry there.  I’ve never had a second date but had a few first dates.  I do want to meet someone who cares about me but that guy and I haven’t met quite yet.  Hopefully, it happens sooner rather than later. 

Moving on with the day, it won’t be easy but I will have to manage somehow.  Hope things are better in your world!