Fresh Start

New or Old reader ….Greetings and welcome!  For unknown reason Blogger decided to delete my old blogs.  I have been going through the appeal process to get them back, but with so many horror stories on the net I decided to cut my losses and start over.  Hopefully, this blog will be safe (crosses fingers) and be able to stay on-line for many years.  If you remember me you will recall that I had two blogs.  My main blog was on-line for around 7 years, so loosing all of those posts really hurt.  Not to mention the hours I spent designing this new site.  Time really passes quickly when your engrossed in a project.  The hard part for me was doing the tweaking and making sure everything was just perfect before I forged forward.

For the new folks, read my profile to learn about me.  Just in case you can’t tell by the name of the blog I am gay (shocker, I know).  I have a partner and we have been together for many, many years.  Our children are our cats, we have 7 of them.  1 Momma cat and her 4 kids.  The other two are strays that we took in.  Actually the one stray TAZ had been coming around for years and once we brought him in he brought along a friend.  His friend is male and has not been neutered yet, so he howls to go outside because he wants a female.  He sprays the house to mark his territory and TAZ is really his only friend in the cat world.  We love them all but they don’t all love each other and always get along.  Cat fights or disagreements are a little too frequent.  Someone is always hissing, which drives me absolutely crazy.

I am in the Technology field and have been unemployed for 16 months.  I have had plenty of interviews but no offers.  I suspect but can’t prove that the reason why it’s taken me so long is because one of the people I used as a reference was actually giving out bad information.  I only say I suspect that because last year and again this year I had to places interested in me.  Suddenly after they talked to this person they decided to hire someone else.  So I am now using a different reference in place of that person.  The problem right now is getting interviews.  Last year was great but this year not so much.  Funny thing is when all of this happened I thought it would be a couple months.  Boy was I wrong!

Given the fact that I have been living on unemployment and didn’t know any better, I tapped into my 401k.  That hurt me on taxes as well as wiping out a good portion of my retirement.  Fortunately I am young enough that if I get back to work soon, I will be able to save some of that back.  I am in the process of filing Bankruptcy.  It’s not like I wanted to but I am backed into a corner and really have no choice.  Turns out I didn’t need to touch my retirement after all because it’s protected and exempt from creditors.  Damn!  If I had only known that sooner I would be in less debt and have more savings.  When you know better, you do better.  So now I’m telling folks about it so they too are educated and if they are in my shoes they don’t touch what they have worked so hard to save for.

What can I expect to see here?  There will be some photos of guys on occasion.  I will be talking a lot about my life and what I am going through at the present time.  You will hear all about my partner, cats and what ever is on my mind.  I enjoy music a lot so you will see music videos.  Some advice and commentary on current events.  That is pretty much it in a nut shell.

I welcome your comments, feedback and suggestions.  Feel free to share anything.  Comment moderation is enabled so if you post something that you don’t want me to share with the rest of the world be sure to type in ***DO NOT POST***.  Otherwise, I will publish what you write. 

If your gay and just coming to terms with that or have questions about gay people, I am more than happy to help out with any advice.  I know it is not easy being gay, it can be a difficult thing for you to come to terms with, let alone dealing with how other people react when you tell them the news.  Younger guys hang in there when you grow up things are much better.  The important thing is that if your having any kind of problem be it sexual identity, bullying or whatever TALK to someone, DO NOT hold in your feelings.  That only makes things worse.  The hard part might be finding someone trustworthy.  If you want that person can be me.  Otherwise, seek out a parent, close friend or counselor. 

Well the hour is growing late and I need to prepare to turn in.  Thanks again for stopping by.  I hope to hear from you and see you here again real soon.  Take care!