Hot in November

This weather is crazy, it’s very warm for being the end of November.  I’ve never experienced temperatures this warm in this kind of year.  I guess I now know what it feels like outside on Christmas in California.  I actually wore a short sleeve shirt to work today, felt odd since I have been used to putting on a coat or jacket before going out.  If it was up to me, this mild not terribly hot and not cold weather would be fine year round.  I am not a jacket or coat fan because they make me feel bulkier than I already am.  However, with time I get used to it and it won’t bother me until next Winter season. 

Monday was still kind of a boring day but I kept myself entertained and occupied, I didn’t do work stuff I did me stuff.  When there was work I of course shifted gears but for the most part I got paid to sit at my desk and surf on my phone.  There are worse ways to make a living. I also got news that I am getting another bonus for helping with the office move that happened in October.  Not sure how much it will be but hey every dollar helps and it makes me that much prouder of myself and my employer.  I love positive unexpected surprises just as much as I love money!

Today was a little boring in the morning.  The afternoon was full of events and quitting time came but still it was not fast enough for me. 

Lord help me because tomorrow I have a video conference to attend.  If it doesn’t keep pace and my interest I will be falling asleep on camera.  The part that sucks is my boss and his boss will be in this meeting so I have to do what I can to stay awake. 

The support group I joined has had a lot of people posting, reaching out for help.  I really hate reading their stories because I know I am reading about the end of a relationship due to death.  One guy posted something like his partner died suddenly of a heart attack.  He had heart surgery at the start of the month but he was making a great recovery.  No one ever said that his heart could stop.  Heart problems or not, it can happen to any one of us at anytime and no one can predict it happening just out of the blue.  What was even stranger about this is that he was in a Throuple and his other partner doesn’t live close by.  I don’t see how 3 guys make a relationship work much less how an open relationship works.  It just boggles my mind but while this guy is short 1 partner he still has the other.  That is not an option most of us are afforded. 

I do enjoy putting in my 2 cents and outside of the creepy old guy hitting on me, this has been a positive experience. 

I know it’s uncommon for me to make a post at night during the week.  There isn’t anything on TV and I need to pass the time before I got to bed.  Besides that it’s cooler down in the basement.  When I do go up in a bit I will have to contend with cats meowing and clamoring for attention.  Ah the life of a Cat Daddy. 

Looking forward to the weekend even if I am on-call.  I have to get up early on Sunday to remote in and do some testing, outside of that I hope it’s an uneventful weekend. 

Before Momma blows a gasket I should probably go upstairs.  That little lady runs this house and she follows me everywhere I go, except for the bathroom.  I am so glad she is here with her kids, I can’t imagine life without any of them.  They truly keep me going. 

I hope all is well in your world and that life is being kind to you.  Thanks for stopping by. 

One more day

I took advantage of the day and was lazy again, sort of.  I had breakfast out, grabbed the mail.  I picked up two candles after breakfast – got Warm Lux Cashmere and Coconut Beach.  They smell amazing and both are by Yankee.  I got some money in the mail shame there wasn’t more.  Just a rebate check from one of the medicines I take that costs a small fortune.  I also got my bank statements, I didn’t pay much attention to the holiday gift that was distributed last pay period.  Turns out it was in a different account other than my primary, that could have been disastrous.  Thankfully I got the money transferred tonight and it’s will be fully in my account on Tuesday.  After hitting up those two places I opted to get a car wash.  Wow it’s beautiful again!  I also got to see some cute guys at the car wash.  After that I was all hot and I had to come home.  Not hot from the guys but hot from the wacky weather.  It should be in the 30’s but it was closer to 70 here today.  Totally unseasonable weather. 

Got cooled off, played on my phone.  Had an old man hit me up on Facebook wanting to chat, sorry gramps I buried one old guy and I am not looking to repeat that again, so he got blocked.  I know it was kind of rude but I didn’t want to reply and get something started.  Eventually I grew tired and fell asleep. 

The best part of my day was to learn that Zak from On Scene TV accepted a friend request on social media.  He’s a hottie and has a very interesting job.  I like the way he works even though his competition doesn’t.  He’s very professional. 

Back on track.  I ventured out after my nap was over with for a hair cut.  The mobile app was all messed up so I just decided to show up.  Turns out they were booked until they were closed but thankfully I was there at the right time.  The place was empty.  They took me right away and I was in and out in 10 minutes tops.  It was awesome and I had them take the sides shorter, if the weather goes back to normal I will fucking hate that choice but it looks really good. 

Ever since Thanksgiving I have been hungry for Spaghetti so I went out to a local Italian place and got my noodle on.  There have been cute guys that have worked there in the past, my waiter wasn’t ugly just not my type.  Plus he was not focused on me to the point I want to leave him the tip of you need to pay more attention to the customer.  The food was good and I opted not to get desert because I know I have been really, really bad from a dietary point of view.  That won’t stop me from getting a shake tomorrow morning. 

I went on to battle the Pet Food Store something I try to put off especially now that holiday shopping is in full force.  I hate the traffic, the crowds, the lines – it all sucks.  If I can get in and get out that’s fine.  The trip wasn’t as bad as I had planned it to be and I spent way more than I planned on.  However, it will keep the children happy and that’s what it’s all about. 

I came home and have been here ever since.  I am done for the day.  I got to watching TV and spending more time with the kids.  They didn’t want me to go to the basement.  I watched the boys.  Marv started to give Bear a bath and then they got into it.  Just playing but then they stopped and Bear had this death stare, I knew something was going down again.  With in seconds it did.  Then that was over and they fell asleep next to each other.  The two best brothers that ever lived.  I am so jealous of them.  They each compete with the other as to who can occupy the most of my time.  I hate being in the middle but welcome to the joy of cat ownership.

I bit the bullet and upgraded my screen capture software.  I use Snag It.  They have come out with several versions past what I had and the $24 was worth it.  It’s one of those must have pieces of software, regardless of the computer I am using.  It comes in handy when you least expect it.  I use it to grab pictures and to document things both at home and at work.  Speaking of work I really don’t look forward to going back to it, but it beats the alternative. 

Thankfully, I have 1 last day.  Breakfast out, grocery shopping, filling up the tank and then I will be home for the day.  Hopefully my trusty inner alarm clock will be working and I will be up by 8 or 830 and out the door by 9.  The sooner I get moving the sooner I can get home.  I didn’t accomplish anything other than seeing a movie and just loafing.  Hey it’s necessary and something that I wish I could do more often.  Everything else will come together eventually.

I feel so sorry for the kids, they will miss me and I will miss them but it’s only been 4 days and not 14 days so this shouldn’t be that traumatic for them.  We get to do it again next month but only for 3 days.  Same is true for January but we get to do it twice in January.  Once to ring in the new year and once to celebrate Martin Luther King Jr Day.  I’ll take that.  I have scheduled a doctors appointment in January and need to request time off.  That will be a 4 day weekend as well.  I see the doc on a Thursday.  He’s always off on Friday but then I can get my blood work done and presto I have the weekend – 4 days it’s awesome.  In case you can’t tell I am all about time off!

Well off to see what else Saturday night brings.  Momma’s playing and crying her head off.  Better now than at 2 am when I am sound asleep.  Yes, she really does it then.  That’s why if it’s a work night my White Noise Machine is on and my door is closed.  You can play and scream all you want to while Daddy enjoys a nice slumber.  If the house alarm goes off that will wake me white noise or no white noise – it’s loud and that is by design.  I need sleep in order to make money.  No sleep means no money and that means well you get the idea. 

The best part of all of this break is not having to be chained to my phone.  I can turn it off, I can put it in Airplane mode or I can put it on Do Not Disturb – all of which I have done at some point.  I make sure I am available for calls by forwarding my cell to my home  - no one calls.  If I didn’t forward I would surely miss something or someone.  That is just the way the game is played.

I hope all is well in your world.  Talk with you again soon.

Thanksgiving Weekend

The big event went off without a hitch.  I believe I figured out why my friends chose to meet up at the restaurant and not at their house.  Their dog suffered a stroke last week.  She is making progress.  I was surprised that the dog isn’t on aspirin or some form of a blood thinner.  Such a sweet dog.  Her life started off rough as she was part of the show dog world and was abused.  They rescued her from that.  When they got her she was in kidney failure.  I believe they said she was 13 years old.  Not terribly old for a dog.  I hope she pulls through and makes a great recovery.  She forgot everything how to eat, go to the bathroom, walk it was quite a mess but everything has come back.  She just doesn’t navigate stairs. I didn’t get an invite to Christmas Dinner not sure if one will be coming or not.  I won’t force the issue.

I got to take home all of the food this year.  I threw out the Maggiano’s Salad and the Creamed Spinach because those are things I don’t like. I am not wild about hot ham either but I ate it.  Everything is gone but part of one pasta side and some Cesar Salad.  Putting everything away last night I was still hungry when I got home so I finished off the whole thing of Spaghetti with a Meatball.  No one touched it and it was mine.  I was kind of wishing I had some of that today.  I have stuffed myself very well and hope that I can get used to going back to “normal”.

My internal calendar is all messed up feels like Saturday but it’s only Friday.  I certainly don’t want to rush things.

I haven’t used the computer since I left work early on Wednesday.  Seems foreign to me but it was nice to have a break.

AT&T opened up all of the premium channels for the weekend so there is plenty to watch but most of it I am not interested in.  I have exhausted my choices on Amazon and Netflix.  I found and watched an entire new series on Netflix called Shot in the Dark.  It’s about stringers.  That is a fancy name for a camera guy.  They have cars all decked out with scanners, what have to be upgraded engines and a spotlight.  They all drive very fast because it’s a competitive business.  Based in LA they cover stories and sell them to the networks, if they buy them and make the news then they get paid.  It’s very neat and they get all of the good stuff.  I came away with a crush on Zak.  He’s a smart guy who uses the gift of gab and some charm to his advantage.  If your looking for a new series and like adrenaline as well as drama this is the series for you.  I wish they would have included more episodes because it ended as all series do on a cliff hanger.  I fucking hate that.

Today I watched Beach Rats.  Cost me $5.99 and it was interesting.  I thought there would be more sex and more nudity but it was an interesting story.  I am glad I was patient and waited to rent it versus just outright buying it.  Not something that I want to own but renting it was fine. 

I got the vacuum hose changed and it was quite simple.  I hooked up the new phone I bought Wednesday when I got home from work, it was a bargain and fills a void.  The personal massager I got for myself looks great and its functional.  However, the charging port is just plastic there is no metal and I fail to see how it will charge.  I tried to drain the battery but there is a safety feature built in that allows it to run for 30 minutes, then it shuts off.  I want to drain it and try to charge it back up, that is the only way I can prove or disprove if it will work.  I’ve got until the end of January to return it.  I don’t mind keeping it and using it if it will take a charge but otherwise, I want my money back. 

I have spent a boat load of time with the kids, we are to the point where we are getting on each others nerves.  They of course still love me and I love them but I need a little time away.  I have to grab cat food for them tomorrow as well as litter.  Then there is food for me.  I am going out for breakfast and need to check the mail.  Not a lot going for a Saturday.  Extra patrol is out on the interstate and that makes me want to stay off of it.  Too many crazy people out there. 

It’s been enjoyable to take a nap, sleep in and do what I want.  I really didn’t like having extra time on my hands after the meal yesterday but it was nice.  I was a little down but I realize my friends have their own lives as well.  I’m still here and kicking. 

It was a close call for me when I decided to power up my iPad and I had problems remembering what I used for the PIN.  Thankfully after several tries it finally came back to me. 

Listened to the news and I didn’t hear about any loss of life or injuries as a result of black Friday, which is kind of refreshing.  I hope people got their bargains, I know there were plenty of them out there.  It’s just not worth it to me to risk life and limb just to get a bargain.  Sure I like saving money as much as the next person but I value my safety more than the sale. 

I have been in my support group and passed on some advice, that feels so good.  I really wish I would have found this group sooner.

No word from my brother, not a text, an email or phone call.  Not terribly surprised.  I am more of the keep in touch type person.  I don’t know how long it will be and/or if he will call me.  He’s more interested in his life and that bimbo than he is me, which in some ways I understand. 

Holiday letters went in the mail on Thursday so they should be arriving next week for most folks.  I am interested who I will hear from as I sent them to a wide variety of people.  I am sure that the days ahead will also bring cards from one or two people that I didn’t expect to hear from.  Holidays would be easier if there was someone special in my life, in fact that is what I want for the holidays but not sure that will come true. 

Meanwhile I reflect on all of the many things that I have in my life today … a house, a nice car, my kids, health, knowledge, an awesome and well paying job (there is always room for more money), freedom and friends.  None of which I am willing to part with.  It’s been a hell of a year losing a friend at the start of the year, a co-worker over the summer and my mom last month.  The year isn’t over with yet but I certainly hope the loss part is.

Cheers to the weekend.  More rest, relaxing and great food ahead.  Mixed in with some chores  I am not making the progress I had hoped for but then again the weekend isn’t over with yet. 

Day Before Turkey Day

Work is super slow this week, as I expected.  I honestly don’t mind the calm it’s enjoyable but I would like to have something to do.  You can only play with your phone for so long before even that becomes boring.  I have a task to take care of after lunch and if that finishes up and there isn’t anything pressing I will be asking to leave early.  I can be bored at home with my cats. 

Besides that I have to hope there are no porch pirates.  I’ve got stuff coming today from Amazon.  I told Ms. Momma to watch and if anyone takes something to yell at them.  I know she will be napping and won’t careless, but if they came inside and tried to do something I think she might actually throw a fit.  I don’t want to find out. 

I’ve been pretty active on the support group I found.  Wow so many people just like me and some of them have been in this longer than I have, others it’s fresh.  I try to lend words of comfort as best as I can.  I haven’t made any friends from it yet, but I suspect that will happen.  These are people all over the world.  Primarily based in the US but there are some that are in the UK.  Sad that a loss is what is bringing us together but it’s also nice to be there for someone.  I have yet to share my full story and not sure that I will.  It’s also tough to be verbose when your typing from an iPhone keyboard.  I see things at the oddest times and I am either too lazy to go to my computer or I am away from one. 

There was a pretty bad wreck last night that claimed the life of 2 young people.  The cause is still under investigation but it sounds like there was an issue with a Semi Truck – not sure if he lost control or fell asleep at the wheel.  I feel for him whatever the case knowing that 2 people are dead and several others are injured and had to be air lifted out. 

Looking forward to Maggiano’s and their famous Sausage Stuffing as well as time with my friends.  I hope that we can share in more than a few laughs.  I’ll bring along my odd sense of humor that will likely cause me to say something witty that will get a chuckle.  I’ve got this Petroleum Joke but it’s crude.  Get it? 

Last night I got my Ministry credentials.  Very nice but not worth what I paid.  They are big on bumper stickers but I am not.  I’d be happy with a small sticker for my back window that identifies me as Clergy, outside of that no thanks.  They sell them but I am not buying one at this point.  They did give me a clear cling sticker but that broke away from the window overnight.  I guess it’s too cold for plastic to cling. 

Our door at work broke again, as much as I would love to see the hot door repair guy he took a shortcut last time and I am kind of hoping we get someone else.  I need this thing fixed.  I can watch porn at home and oogle over guys there.  Besides that it’s not like I have a chance with the hot door guy, he’s straight or so he says. 

Way more cars on the road today and also in the garage.  Normally it’s really light in the garage the day before a holiday but all of the good spots were taken and I got here super early.  That in and of it’s self does make for a longer day but hey if your on the clock and getting paid, it’s worth some sacrifice. 

We have a team meeting in about 15 minutes and I am sure that will just be a jabber session where I listen to someone ear fuck me for an hour.  I hate all of the corporate double talk and same knee jerk sayings, like if that makes sense, you know what I mean, etc.  I could just puke every time I hear one of them.  Every place you work has some phrase that everyone over uses way too much.  One place I was at it was we will get there. Yeah, no shit but when.  That was always my favorite response, people hated it but I on the other hand loved it. 

Not sure why but my feet are freezing and once that happens the day is pretty well shot.  I can break out the heater which I will do soon but still, it’s kind of a give up and go back to bed type thing.  It’s not officially Winter yet but you can’t necessarily tell that by the weather here most of the time.  It does warm up a little bit in the mid day but that quickly dissipates by the time I leave because the has already set. 

I need a little fuel for the long weekend for the vehicle and outside of that give me some good old fashion relaxing, lots of naps and sleep.  I’ll be just fine and of course it will all be over way too quick and then the countdown will be on to Christmas, which will be here even faster. 

I suppose I should go in anticipation of the mindless gab session that I must attend.  I hope that all is well in your world.   

Helping Others

Today I joined an LGBT Support Group on social media.  I found that there are a lot of other people who are just like me.  I read and understand the pain they are each going through.  I try to put my wisdom in words and help them as much as I can.  It’s really sad, some of these people haven’t given themselves permission to move on.  Until you reach that point you will struggle.  Just because you give yourself permission doesn’t mean you will have someone next to you, but you can be open to someone new coming into your life.  I see several things that I have done wrong, I should have moved and I should have gotten rid of a lot of crap that I am surrounded by.  There are far too many memories here and it’s like I am keeping myself in some state of pain.  However, finances dictate what I can do and I can tell you for a fact there is absolutely no way in the world I can afford 2 mortgage payments.  If I could I would fix this place up with the repairs it needs and put it on the market sooner rather than later.

It was a briskly cold day here.  I hauled myself out of bed way too early considering I was up way too late last night.  I made my way to Steak N Shake and there was a most handsome guy cooking so I had that going for me.  One of the waiters that is hot came in and I decided for whatever reason to play detective.  It didn’t take long to find out his full name and locate him on social media.  He’s 21 which is a wee bit young but hey at least he is legal.  I didn’t ask him and his profile indicates he might be gay.  Just from what I see I think we could hit it off but then again it could all be a fantasy in my own mind.  I also don’t know that someone who is 21 would be interested in someone who is in his 40’s.  I may ask just to see what he will say but for now I remain silent.

Powered through the laundry and a nap.  Placed yet another Amazon order.  I tried to clean up a laser printer that I have and wound up with toner on the carpet.  I was torn on how to clean that up.  Thankfully I made the right choice and got out the vacuum.  That worked like a charm.  I still went over the area with a cold water rag for good measure.  No sign left behind.  Toner will ruin fabric in a heartbeat and there is no cure once the damage is done, at least that has been my experience.  I wound up pitching the cartridge which was still full of toner and putting in a new one.  Then I researched on line and decided to stop buying name brand toner when there is cheaper alternatives.  A laser cartridge of toner will last me for years, I don’t do that much printing.  However, I do like to use it for envelopes and some letters.  It was also handy when I was looking for a job. 

I picked up a hose for the vacuum which has torn, that will be here on Friday.  So now I know part of what I will be doing on Friday.  I also got a massager for one of my friends who has had a hell of a time with her muscles.  In looking I found a personal massager for me and while it’s marketed for aches and pains, it’s a sex toy straight up.  I didn’t buy anything else terribly exciting but it will all be here with the exception of the toner by the end of the week.  I will be giving my friend her gift, this week just because I want her to have some comfort and plus she won’t be expecting it.  I like to throw people off, there is some joy in a total surprise. 

Well Shameless is on and Momma is crowing so I guess that means I am going.  Here’s to a short and quiet week.  I hope the majority of people decide to stay home so those of us that have to work can have an easy breezy commute.  Stay warm!

What a week

Greetings one and all,

Work has been slow, I have tons of free time and lounged away.  It does make for longer days and yes there were things I could have done, but I chose to coast.  I’ve been going full bore for over six months and it’s time to come up for air. 

The dummy made more mistakes this week, I know that probably won’t come as a surprise.  He actually had the balls to call me and try to argue when I called him out.  It’s not a debate dude, just do better next time and for God’s sake get your head out of your ass.  I still say his days are numbered because he keeps making the same mistakes over and over again.

The best part of the week is when one of the doors stopped working.  The reader was just stone cold dead, it would beep if you put your card up to it but nothing happened.  I got to call for repair and they sent the same hot and hunky guy out to fix it.  I saw him over the summer.  Fuck he was even hotter this time.  He got on his knees to work on the door and well my head went to sex instantly.  I chatted him up and then got depressed, he’s got a girlfriend.  He also thought I was married, I didn’t say I was or wasn’t.  I did get a nice look at dat ass and it was super fine.  He would have been perfect, only 10 years younger than me.  Where is my prince charming and what the fuck is he doing now? 

I met my brother today at the bank, of course he came with the bimbo.  He can’t go anywhere without her, I don’t know how me makes it to work by himself.  Fuck leave her at home once and a while.  Anyway, we got our money and it was way more than either of us anticipated.  Turns out there were multiple savings accounts.  The bimbo peeked her head over the counter and she said there are like 8 accounts.  Yeah, no you ditz there are a total of 4 accounts the lady wrote down the balances and that’s when I got out my phone and started calculating.  I wish that I would have gotten all of it but we agreed to split it 50 – 50, which is fair and what is right.  I did get to talk with him without her and that was nice for the short time we chatted. 

When he went to settle up with the nursing home they didn’t pro-rate the bill like they should have.  He tried to explain it to the lady but they wanted a full months rent.  This is the one time he should have had someone with him and of course that’s when he elected to leave her at home.  He paid them rather than debate the issue.  I got a letter ready and just needed some basic information, I am sure I could easily compel them with my fancy word smiting skills to fork over what little bit they owe him.  It’s deceptive and fraudulent.  He on the other hand doesn’t want to fight and is willing to lose his money, which is actually our money.  Well that is unusual but I can’t make him do anything.  I don’t want to overstep so it is what it is. 

I did find a Western Union Settlement, where the USDOJ sued Western Union saying that it failed to protect consumers from wiring money for scams, like the one mom fell for.  I filed a claim for that, they have paid her some money in the past so that will reduce whatever it is we get but getting something is way better than getting nothing.  The bad part is that it can take up to a year to process a claim.  This was just announced this week and I found it when I was passing time at work on social media.  I was over joyed.  I don’t expect much out of it, even if we get nothing that is better than not trying at all. 

I am waiting to hear about the other account she had with a credit union, I mailed that paperwork off this morning.  Again getting nothing is better than not trying at all.  I know mom was poor as a church mouse and spent every fucking penny she ever came across.  She had to have forgotten about the savings accounts that she opened or she would have spent that money a long time ago. 

Tonight I put the finishing touches on my holiday letter.  I have 10 of them to mail and they won’t go in the system until Wednesday night.  Thursday is Thanksgiving so Friday they will be on their way.  I always mail holiday cards/letters the day before Thanksgiving.  I decided to reach out to the convict, I don’t know if this will cause him to get in touch with me but after all we (me and my late partner) did for him I feel as if he owes me.  All I really want is friendship.  It’s been 4 years since we talked and it’s time to break the silence.  I will be making the first move and he is going to make the second move.  It will either be positive or negative, that is entirely up to him.

So, Wednesday of this week I became an ordained minister.  For real.  I can do weddings and funerals.  The ordination is free, if you want the official documents that is what costs.  They got me for around $60 but this is a lifetime thing and unless I actually go to marry someone in another state I won’t ever need a thing from them.  There are no on going or recurring fees, which is what made it even more attractive.  I told my brother but damn I sure hope he doesn’t marry that bitch. 

I went to the dentist today and was really surprised to hear that my dentist sold her practice.  Her and her husband were in business together and this is an exit strategy for him.  She will be sticking around but next year he should be retiring.  So they are owned by a small corporation.  She used to write off the $2 and $4 balances that I would have, now the corporation will be doing the billing and they will want their money so I was told expect a bill.  I am really not happy about their business move but I totally understand that it made sense for them and they likely got money for turning over the practice so that made it even more attractive.  I just don’t want to lose my dentist, it took a long time to find her and I want to keep her for as long as possible.  It’s about an hours drive and people tell me I am crazy but hell I’ll drive a couple hours for pie, why not drive an hour for a dentist.  It’s all about who your comfortable with.  Corporations are taking over all aspects of health care which puts bean counters in control and takes the doctors out of control.  That is the part I am not crazy about.  Welcome to the fast food of health care in the US. 

Well the clock just struck midnight and momma is yelling at me so I am going to publish this and watch some TV.  Hopefully, I will fall asleep.  I have a few things on the list for tomorrow.  Hope all is well in your world.  Stay warm!

Get ‘er Done Weekend

Friday night I kept true to my word and had my Double Quarter Pounder with Cheese and a Medium French Fry.  The fries were fresh and full of salt.  Instantly transported me back to my childhood.  The sandwich was good as well.  Not a bad treat for 5 days of hell. 

Saturday as soon as the Gator had me awake, I sprang into action.  Breakfast for the children was the first order of business.  They were all chatty, I guess hunger pains finally hit all of them and it’s such a rare feeling they didn’t know how to react.  Seriously, they do not starve.

I went out for breakfast, back to the place where the 16yo was.  I feel like he is taunting me.  He figured out I was there and started seating people around me, he would walk right by my table wiggling his ass.  Yeah, dude is still cute but now that I know his age the interest is gone, I mean long gone and never coming back gone.  Food was very good.

On to grab the mail and hope that Death Certificates were in.  No such luck.  Then it was on to the haircut store.  Where I let a different person cut my hair and I got charged wrong, as in too much for my shampoo.  It was only a couple of dollars and I wasn’t going back to argue. 

Next stop was the upscale grocery store.  Where I spent way too much money for “oatmeal”.  The oatmeal is my excuse for going in but I always buy way more stuff than I planned on. 

Next stop the dreaded home improvement store.  Man alive it was like it was Christmas shopping at it’s finest.  Tons of rude people to block the isle, stop and chat and that stressed me out.  I had to keep reminding myself why I was there.  I passed on one item and now I’ve forgotten what it was so must not have been important. 

I should have gone for cat food but opted to go home.  I was a little tired.  Unloaded all of my purchase and then began toilet repair.  Yep, it was the flapper.  The old defective one was rubber and it was just disintegrating.  I had this black goop all over my hands, a real mess.  Got the new one installed and tested it a couple times, presto change-o fixed. 

Finally time to rest up and relax with the children.  I decided to call my brother, the phone rang off the hook before VM picked up.  I left a message thinking he was dodging me.  He called back about an hour later once I had settled down for a nap.  I told the kids he would call and yeah just as I was falling asleep boom.  He paid the nursing home, the doctors are paid.  He has the death certificates and we agreed to meet up on Saturday to close out the bank accounts that are local.  I still need a death certificate to send off for the remote account(s), if there is any money there it will be a surprise.  The bank has frozen the checking account and that was actually expected.  So he has no way to get a balance for the Savings account.  We shall just have to wait and see what’s what.  I think I will walk away with a couple hundred dollars, which will be nice. 

I got on the computer and went porn surfing, that was fun.  Never know what I am going to find but I managed to locate some decent scenes.  By now were at 3 in the afternoon.  I opted to make a pizza, which I picked up earlier in the day.  It was a Gino’s South of Chicago Sausage & Pepperoni.  Pretty good stuff.  However, the first bite the sauce went onto my upper lip and I managed to burn the corner of my lip.  It’s a little painful but just looks like I have a chapped lip.  Doesn’t feel anything like a chapped lip. 

Oh, I ate the whole pizza.  As I sat down I got a call for work, but I elected to defer it until I was done with my food.  I took care of that and another hour had passed me by.  I got out and filled up the vehicle with fuel and then went on to the cat food store.  Then it was back home for the remainder of the evening. 

Of course I went back to the computer and I started music surfing.  Acoustic Alchemy has some great stuff.  I had a very good evening listening to their music which is classed as smooth jazz.  Very relaxing.  I just love music, the older I get the more I have to have.

Finally I called it a night close to 11p that is after I put out my medicine, medicated the cats and had a stinging time brushing my teeth with my lip burn.  Watched TV and saw the latest episode of Active Shooter.  Man that was an eye opener.  After that was over with I went to bed. 

Sunday once again the Gator made me rise from bed with her magically gifted set of lungs.  It’s annoying to hear but also entertaining to hear some of it.  Got the furies fed.  Then on to grab my breakfast and hit up the grocery store.  Once again I dropped way more money than I thought I would.  They didn’t have my Diet Code Red Mt. Dew which didn’t please me at all.  I got home and got everything put away.  Then down I went in my chair.  Watched a little TV felt sleepy and I was back in bed by 10:30.  Slept until 11:30 and then said give me a 1/2 hour.  True to form Gator started her racket at noon.  That was the lunch bell ringing.  So I had to feed them.  Then I found out what a Blueberry Oatmeal Cookie tasted like.  I paid $5 for a box.  They were really good. 

Now we start laundry and that’s all done.  So here I am giving you the play by play.  Next it will be carrying everything upstairs and getting ready to clean the house.  Which will send the cats into a panic because the vacuum cleaner comes out.  Then I’ll wrangle the trash.  I’ll probably take a short break and then it will be time for a shave and shower, followed by supper which is going to be frozen Turkey, Mashed Potatoes and Stuffing.  You might think I am gearing up for Turkey Day but it’s actually an enjoyable meal that I can have year round.  I’ll probably come back to the computer for a couple hours then it will be upstairs to take in Shameless, Vice Principals and Last Week Tonight with John Oliver.  Then hopefully I will feel drowsy and go to bed.  Then I’ll get to rise early again and go back to the fun that is work. 

I realized after the fact of speaking with my brother this coming Saturday I have a dentist appointment.  So hopefully he will get moving early because come noon I’ll be in the chair getting my pearly whites cleaned and polished.  Now that’s my real turkey day preparation.  Then the following week the big day will be here and we only have to work 3 days.  Nice!

While it’s not exciting news I am proud  of the fact that I finally got everything done that I have been putting off.  Here is to a fast moving and highly productive week ahead with little stress and no worry.  The refrigerator for temperatures has arrived, so my wardrobe has changed over to all long sleeves.  Still not a fan but it is normal for this time of year.  My lawn guy mowed 1 last time even though our contract expired last month.  That’s another can of worms.  So stay warm and be well. 

The Day that goes on forever

Turning back the clock and gaining an extra hour makes today seem like the day that will never end.  I was up at 6 and the children were expecting their breakfast.  My thought was to go back to sleep but that didn’t happen.  I actually watched some TV, relaxed a bit and then shaved off all of the hair on my face.  That was some relief!  Then I went to grab breakfast, hit up the grocery store, get gas and a car wash.  Came home unloaded the groceries and put them away.  Then futzed with my tire pressure.  I decided to inflate my tires to an even 40 pounds.  Then I put all of the sensors back on and reset the reader.  They all show 39, which is close enough in my book.  Now I will be watching to see how this tracks over the course of the week and that will determine if it’s a keeper or a ship her back. 

I called my brother at 11:05a on 11-05 and wished him a Happy Birthday.  He sounded wore out and said he was just watching TV.  No talk about death certificates and I wasn’t going to bring it up.  Right now it’s a waiting game to see if he says something or if the request I mailed off comes through – one way or another I will have a copy.  Patients is not my strong suite. Good thing I am not a doctor. 

I hit up the vet for more medicine and they gave in without a problem.  I was told to get the blood work done asap, yeah sure thing might be a couple more months but I will get it done. 

I went through the process of adjusting all of the clocks and only had problems with the atomic clock.  How strange is that.  I got it all set and then it would tell me it was 10 at night.  It took a couple times and then I figured out I needed to adjust the time zone and that fixed everything.  I changed the batteries and when I do that, getting that clock set again is always a little bit of a challenge, which is strange since it auto updates.  My alarm system still has the wrong time but every other clock is updated.  The alarm system will adjust in about a month or so, it’s an automatic thing and not something that I can manually set.

I did some research on potential buyers of the fur coats I inherited and found 3 places that look solid.  Now all I have to do is dig the coats out and photograph them.  The 3 places that I looked at will all supply prices based on photos so that will help me make a decision.  It feels awkward and if something happened to them before I was paid and they were lost or destroyed, I would be devastated. I kind of hate to part with them but it’s not like I can wear them and the cash in the bank will serve me much better.  I think I could be sitting on thousands of dollars but I will never know until I send off photos.  I could pay to have them appraised and that would give me an idea of what they were worth and if any of these 3 places would be trying to fuck me over but I may just take my chances.  Sending a photo is hardly a commitment.

I dug through some of the things I gathered of my mom’s, I remember this crystal lamp.  The thing was filthy and covered in dirt and dust.  I washed off the base and put the shade in the dish washer.  It runs on a nightlight bulb.  Cleaned up it looks like a masterpiece, which I will treasure.  I brought it to the basement so it doesn’t get broken but I am still mulling over where I am going to keep it at.  If I remembered for certain that I had this I would have never gotten that butterfly light/urn.  This is simple, plain but elegant and I am glad that I have it. 

We are presently under a Tornado Warnings and there was one hell of a monster storm that came through.  It was what my late partner would call a gully washer.  He loved those.  They are fine unless your driving then they are a complete nightmare because you can’t see shit.  Anyway, I made my way to the basement and checked on the sump pump.  Oddly it was dry and there was no water.  Then out of no where it was like Niagara Falls.  The pump kicked on and was so quiet I hardly knew it was running.  So I guess I am in the clear with the pump, at least for now.  That’s some good news. 

I am ready for tomorrow but not in any hurry for it to get here.  I have had the air conditioner on because this house is hot.  It will be time to change that and turn the furnace on because the rest of the week is supposed to be in the 50’s.  So not looking forward to colder weather. 

As I am sure you already know there was a mass shooting in a church in TX today.  All of the politicians have kind words to say but no one is doing a fucking thing regarding gun control.  Until we change our laws and limit what types of firearms people can have events like this will continue to happen.  People don’t need your prayers, it’s too late for that.  They need action which speaks louder than words.  Of course there are plenty of ‘gun nuts’ and the NRA to deal with and that is the primary reason why nothing has changed.  The NRA owns the politicians and as along as that happens nothing will change.  I have nothing against someone bearing arms, provided they are sane and responsible.  I don’t think the average person needs to own a semi automatic and/or an automatic weapon.  I don’t think the average person needs hollow point bullets.  If you want a basic handgun for protection and/or a rifle for hunting that’s all good, I have no problem with it.  My point is we need control and limits – reform the laws, don’t take away the right to bear arms just be specific in what people can and can’t own.  Make background checks and waiting periods mandatory regardless of how the purchase is taking place.  Outlaw ghost guns, which is something new that I learned about last night.  Violence never solves any problem it only creates more problems.  But for the actions of one person, think how many people would be just living a normal day.  I saw a tweet and it listed a bunch of public places that you were not safe in.  The fact of the matter is you are not safe anywhere, not even in your own home.  Someone could get into a gun battle in the street and the next thing you know a bullet is headed for you because it missed it’s target and hit your house.  It’s just crazy.  The other side of this is the kids that are killed by playing with firearms.  If you have a child, it should be mandatory for you to have a gun lock and a gun safe, period no exceptions.  Taking it a step further, you shouldn’t be allowed to keep a loaded weapon in your house if you own kids, again no exceptions.  The gun problem in American is easily solved with a little common sense, but unfortunately, common sense is not so common anymore.  I am sure this will cause controversy, but I will say this we are each entitled to our own opinion.  Just because a person has an opinion doesn’t mean it’s right.  Sure I believe my opinion is valid and right.  By doing nothing though, we are changing nothing and this insanity will continue. 

Now I am headed upstairs to turn off a leaky toilet, getting ready to have a threesome with Ben & Jerry and watch the premier of Shameless.  My lord this day has been so long!  I hope that I get to have a great orgasm and enjoy a lot of good TV because 3 of my favorites are on tonight.  Cheers to a great week ahead for me and for you and for our countries too. 

Active Shooter

I was kind of afraid for the weekend, fearing that I would sink into a rut and not want to come back out.  I did allow myself time to lounge, watch TV and relax.  I did that for the bulk of Saturday.  Finally, I got out around 4p and grabbed the mail and some Chinese Food.  Then on to the cat food store and finally back home. 

My new watch that I ordered came, it’s a little bigger than I thought it would be but I like it.  I wish it had a metal band instead of plastic, that just makes it look cheap but I have a dress watch with a metal band.  I only wear a watch to work and for some odd reason on Thanksgiving.  I really didn’t need this watch but I saw it and it caught my eye, so presto it’s mine. 

After I put the cat food away I installed my tire monitoring system.  If you don’t tighten the cap all the way, you will hear a hissing sound and air is leaking out of the tire.  The anti-theft system makes it a bitch when it comes time to take off the cap to fill the tire with air.  You have to remove the cap plus the anti-theft lug nut.  Then you can fill the tire with air.  I’ve got an air compressor that you set a dial to and it precisely fills the tire, still with that this thing is showing that my tires are under inflated, but in a safe zone.  I am going to see what it looks like in the morning and will likely make one more attempt at adding air to them.  Then it will be a wait and see thing, if this thing actually works as it proclaims.  I like it but I am a little skeptical and could easily see myself returning it.  I want to give it a fighting chance. 

If you have Amazon Prime, check out the movie called The Patent Scam.  It’s really an eye opener, it’s kind of boring when it first starts but stick with it and you’ll be very surprised.  If you have Showtime check out a series called Active Shooter.  It’s interesting and gives you a different look at various Active Shooter events that have taken place in the US.  They have yet to cover Las Vegas but I suspect it’s in the works. 

I’ve spoken with my brother off and on during the course of the week.  He has failed me on getting together this week to grab a bite to eat.  He told me that the funeral home called and wanted him to pickup the death certificates.  That is the one piece of paper we are waiting on to cash out the little accounts that she had.  He told them to place them in the mail.  Great so now we have to wait even longer. They should have surfaced today but I haven’t gotten a phone call from him.  Kind of figuring that he might opt to screw me, so I shelled out my money and ordered two copies on my own.  It cost me a small amount of money but once I have that document I will have power.  I told him that the Small Estate Affidavit is in place and made sure that he was agreeable to 50% of what ever balance she had in any account going to each of us.  He was fine with that.  He seems friendly enough but I know my family and revenge is a big thing.  I am playing nice but I’m not going to be stupid.  I could go and close out all of her accounts on my own without him but that would cause problems.  I am eager to see what she had in her credit union account and need a certified original death certificate in order to find out.  I’m interested to see how this will play out and what is going to happen to our relationship.  Thus far I don’t have a lot of confidence.  Who knows he might just surprise me.  Tomorrow is his birthday and I’ll call or send a text, which is more than he would do for me.

I am still grieving and have my moments, as one would expect.  I reached out to one of my mom’s co-workers by letter because I heard that she was particularly upset and feeling guilty.  I sent her a letter telling her to let it all go, she has done nothing wrong and shouldn’t feel guilty.  I reminded her about when we spoke some years back when my mom’s mental illness was coming to the surface and she affirmed my believes.  That was the best thing she could have ever done and she told me that she needs help.  I remember telling my brother after I got off the phone with her about what she said.  We weren’t terribly close then but mom got us talking.  She was the one person who could bring both of us together, even if sometimes it was just to see the argument erupt.  I know damn good and well I was baited several times but that’s the past and there isn’t anything I can do about that. 

The work situation has gotten some attention, of course it’s a bit late.  Thus far nothing is being done it is a waiting game to see how much more he will fuck up before they have enough ammo to cut ties with him.  Me and my boss had a very frank conversation and he told me that everyone has a learning curve and there comes a time when you can no longer claim a learning curve, we are at that point.  I told him that I think if your going to BS your way into a job, you should be able to back it up or you shouldn’t try if you know you don’t have what it takes to carry out what and who you represented yourself.  I mean look I’ve not been the most qualified person for all of the jobs I applied for and I am very thankful for people who took a chance on me.  That is the only reason I am where I am today.  I may have BS’d a little bit and I think to a certain degree a lot of people do that but I didn’t dig myself a hole that I couldn’t get out of.  I have always come through, failure is not an option.  I don’t know what type of a game this guy is playing or how long he thinks he can hold on but I can tell you that the clock is ticking and his days are numbered.  He called me on Friday morning and left a voice mail asking me how to do a very basic task.  I called him back and walked him through it and he was thankful.  I also told my boss and forwarded the voice mail.  I’ll take every ounce of proof that I can get.  I just want him to shape up or ship out and at this point wanting him gone is probably the best thing that can happen to me.  That is the only way I can get a promotion, gain some sanity and stop wasting my time to train someone who is a fraud.  Also the sooner it happens that he goes, the sooner we can get someone in who cares and is more qualified and that I can train and they will learn instead of spinning my wheels and having a dumb ass who can’t follow simple written instructions to save his own life. 

Since I am on the work topic, I learned that we scored in the top standings of diversity places to work, we will be in the results released by the HRC.  I was really surprised to see that.  I’ve always wanted to work for an employer who ranked high in that regard.  It’s making me re-think if I want to come out at work.

So the good news is that there isn’t a lot of laundry to do this weekend, but the bad news is there is laundry to do this weekend.  Sunday will be clock adjustment day.  I decided I will take care of things after the fact instead of ahead of time, it’s just easier and I can be more calm about it.  The cats certainly won’t understand but they will adapt after a couple days.  So the sun deprivation begins and I will be driving in the dark for both of my commutes.  It’s always dangerous when we first start out because people somehow forget how to drive in the dark.  Personally, I hate it because not everything or everyone is well lit and you have to always be on guard.  My new fear or phobia is that I am going to hit someone, not as in wreck but injure or kill a pedestrian.  I hope it’s just a phobia and/or fear because that is the last thing I want to do.  I am all about helping people but this just hit me within the past couple weeks and it’s a nagging that won’t go away, so I am extra careful.

I haven’t shaved since last Saturday.  I am entering the itchy stage and people are telling me that my beard looks good and I should continue to grow it out.  Yeah well when I reach the point where I want to gnaw off my own face, that is when it’s time to shave.  I actually don’t want to get to that point so I will be shaving tomorrow if I can wait that long.  It’s going to require a pre-trim and then an actual shave which is double the work for going a day early.  I’d like to get back in sync which is why I really want to wait until tomorrow. 

Now I am going to hang up my shower curtain since it’s about to be fresh out of the washer.  Then I get the joy of putting out pills for me and then medicating the cats.  I reach out to my vet asking for sympathy and more medicine.  Normally they want you to comply with the monitoring panel of blood work but I explained that I just buried my mom and she didn’t have life insurance.  So my finances are a bit tough right now.  Sure if they twist my arm I will comply but I’d like to think they will give in and compromise, considering all of the business I have given them over the years.  Everyone with a slight exception for Marv is doing fine.  He worries me because of his incessant meowing, the slobbering and the fact that he doesn’t appear to be gaining any weight.  He is a little bit of a different cat and I still have a bad feeling about him but I’ve shoved it to the back of my mind.  Death is the last thing I need another dose of now, especially with the holidays coming. 

I hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend, I know that I am going to try.  Looking forward to tomorrow nights premier of Shameless.  I hope there is some hot gay sex with Ian, I know he will be shirtless a little bit and that in it’s self is a huge turn on.  I know it’s only a character but damn the actor is super fine!

Cheers for now. 

Gator the bed hog

Much to my dismay I let Gator spend the night with me.  I had issues falling asleep and staying asleep.  Not exactly sure what that was about.  Other than saying it was job jitters.  I get that when I take time away and have to return.  Normally I would power through it and I’d be so busy my body wouldn’t know the difference.  I’d sleep really good the following night. 

However, this morning I just decided I am taking 1 more day.  Matters not who’s bank it comes out of but I just need 1 more day.  I got a little extra sleep, watched way too much TV.  Saw a movie Sordid Lives Wedding, it’s a new release and available on Amazon.  I’ve seen all of the Sordid Lives series and this didn’t disappoint.  It did cost me $4.99 but it was worth most of what I spent. 

I didn’t worry about work, didn’t even turn email back on my phone.  I put my phone on do not disturb and unless you were in my contacts, the phone wouldn’t ring.  I saw my voice mail light lit up and got a little concerned maybe something happened at work.  Nope it was a head hunter.  While I have thought about changing jobs, considering my recent automobile acquisition I’m staying put.

I took in another movie as well, I think it was called 25 pills.  It was interesting and there were some cute guys in it.  One of which I knew I knew from somewhere.  So I had to finish the movie to get to the credits.  Then I did my research and bingo I remember the guy from Nip/Tuck he played Matt, wow still super sexy.  I just love solving a mystery. 

Then I fell back to Queer as Folk.  I like to re-watch it from time to time.  I remember waiting patiently each week for Sunday and then coming to the basement, where our TV room was.  Then recording the episode and watching it live at the same time.  The sex scenes with the guys used to get me all hot and bothered.  They are still hot but they don’t have the same effect on me.  I remember hearing my late partner make different remarks and try to talk while we were both watching a show.  Something he was famous far.  Even watching porn he would cry foul when he saw something amiss.  Talk about messing up the moment, that did it.  What I wouldn’t give to have it all back. 

It’s been a day where my mind still strolls down memory lane.  Like the time my mom told me about sex in the middle of a laundromat.  The time she took me a long on a job interview, I waited in the lobby and then had to use the bathroom, I was still very young.  She took me into the women’s restroom and some lady made a big deal about it.  My mom brought out her famous F bomb and big mouth and that lady got an ear full.  I figured she messed up any chance she had at getting the job but nope, she got the job and kept it for 20 something years.  Strange how things work out. 

A new show that I have taken in is Kevin Probably Saves the World.  It’s rather interesting and the listen to the universe principal is kind of unique.  I’ve tried it and thus far it’s been the right thing. 

Just before making this post I elected to check in at work and man alive there is so much stuff for me to do, I am going to be buried neck deep.  Not sure where to begin all sorts of problems, a departure and a new hire.  Yeah it’s gonna be a busy day so Thursday should fly by and Friday will be here in no time.

Pee pads came today that made Bear happy.  Tomorrow my tire monitor will arrive and that will make me happy.  I am thinking unless it’s jus super simple I will probably save it for the weekend, sounds like a good Saturday project.  At least this week with only 2 days to commute I will save on gas, which is a good thing.  I still have a full tank from when I filled up on Sunday.

My allergies decided to attack me late this afternoon.  I was sneezing off and on all day, then my eyes started itching and that was it.  They moved in for the kill and I fought back with eye drops and nose spray along with my evening medicine.  The new candles I bought probably didn’t help, they were burning yesterday but I didn’t light a single one today. 

I did doze off here and there but fought to stay awake for the bulk of the day.  I will ramp up on sleeping medicine tonight and I shouldn’t have any problems.  For good measure I will probably kick Gator out tonight.  She won’t be happy about that but it’s for the best. 

Tomorrow the weather is supposed to warm up for a few days and when we get back to Monday the bottom falls out again.  See saw temperatures are not good for me, it’s when I tend to get sick.  I am fighting against it and hopefully it will pay off. 

I am having a little bit of a time with moving on but I think that once tomorrow morning comes and I actually drive in to work, that will help a lot.  I’ll miss my furry kids but they will be there waiting for me when I come home and that will be a very welcome site. 

So Wednesday evening TV is about to begin and I guess I should get to stepping so I don’t miss anything and can enjoy some additional time with my furry family.  I did find Ruth in my bed this morning and she let me pet her and everything.  I think she was still groggy.  Normally she is hell on wheels and quite particular about when I can touch her.  I love her so much and her unique personality but I really wish she would warm up to me more than she has.  I have no intention of hurting her and you’d think she would realize that after all these years but I suppose that one can never be too careful. 

Looking forward to Sunday when Shameless comes back on, plus we get an extra hour.  Yes, it’s time change weekend.  I was upset at first then I remember oh yeah we get an hour back so it won’t be so bad after all.  Just wait until Spring I won’t be happy then. 

Hope you had a great Wednesday.  Two and a half weeks until Turkey Day and Black Friday.  I have no plans for Black Friday but I am looking forward to Turkey Day!

Cheers.